ystrdy start over

day eighteen

• there’s a med student shadowing

today + he showed up like

a bull in a china shop genuinely

• first thing he says as we walk

to rounds is “do we really take

all these computers + people around

to every baby?” I was like yup

he said “there’s gotta be a

better way” I was like yup

but we haven’t found it yet

classic white man syndrome

- I agree ofc with the

computers being ridiculous

- it's just funny to observe how

insiders I’m getting like defensive of

the nicu vibes from outsiders

• PVR drops within 3 days of

life, don’t operate on babies

til then as their lungs start

working

• DBM is pooled, not from single donor

• the sole male RN in this unit

makes my pussy purr I’m sorry

to say it and even sorrier to

see a ring on his finger

- I thought he was a hot lesbian

at first and still think so from certain angles

• ok the med student is nice actually

and is asking me all kinds of

questions like why do we give

caffeine and why do we fortify

breast milk and what are trophic

feeds and I can’t help feeling good

about knowing all these answers.

or most of the answers

- he said thank you for

answering all these questions and

I said of course, it's good

cuz it shows me

that I’ve actually learned something

• rounding on tumor baby now who had

an “eventful afternoon” bruh

this is beyond me atp

- I did start a convo about him

with the residents before

rounds just like “I don’t get

why we’re doing this.” one person

suggested maybe they’re just

expecting him to die before they

can do the surgery, but we all

agreed that the suffering is like

out of this world… one resident

had a note of optimism saying

he can get SLP therapy and

that first 5 years of life will

be miserable but… idk if

there was anything after the

but… but he’ll be alive? yes,

but at what cost? this present

cost plus many more costs if

and when he ever gets discharged

- I look over at him and his

mouth is just straight up

bubbling like a cauldron

- and if there is any part of

any provider that is even

subconsciously keeping him alive

but not removing tumor to

avoid surgery and let him slowly

die, that’s an extremely vile

crime and…… just looking at

mom sit in her chair powerless…

- it’s just all so vile and abnormal

• white as default, and its

downstream effects, are a scourge.

how did this shit proliferate so

out of control? such degeneracy

• nurse talking on the phone

saying “my hair might get

the tiniest bit frizzy” the

juxtaposition of such inane

talk next to such unknowable

suffering

• G--- came up to me and showed

me a post it note saying

“excellent presentation, you can

be a second year resident” she

said it was good and concise and

it was honestly very moving to

receive that compliment… too

bad I’m not going to be a

resident!!!!

• not G--- shading the residents…

she asked me what I wanted to

do after quietly complaining that

rounds today were like a “slow motion

movie,” I gave her a version of

my spiel, and she objected a little,

saying “but your presentation was so

excellent, and look at these

residents… second year, third year,

even fellow, and look at them…!”

- taking this as a sort of devilish

temptation to denigrate others and

boost my own ego, which I

hereby reject

• this whole episode of ostomy

prolapse with H---- has

been disturbing… dumping packets

of sugar on her prolapsed intestine,

pouring sugar water in her mouth,

then morphine, in an attempt to

get her to calm down (she was

screaming and yelling as surgeons

tried to push this thing that looks

like a frozen cherry back inside her)

culminating in a surgeon pulling

up a playlist of “shh” sounds

on spotify and holding it next to

the baby’s face

tmrw